Overreactinga
anon-4471
2h · 46 messages
where were you last night at mia’s, i told you on mondayyou didn’t. you make things up constantly.i still have the messageand now you want to fight about it? typical.
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where were you last night? and don't say mia again.
at mia's. i told you on monday.
you didn't. you make things up constantly.
sorry, i shouldn't have pushed it.
and now you want to fight about it?
i'm the only one who ever stood by you.
if you actually cared you'd cancel the weekend with her.
i just want to talk normally.
forget it.
hey. been thinking about us all week. next month we move in together, promise.
46 messages, 7 flagged.
31 named patterns.
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Minimization
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Gaslighting
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Conditional affection
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Intermittent reinforcement
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Breadcrumbing
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Blame shifting
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Hoovering
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Future faking
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Triangulation
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Love bombing
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DARVO
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Stonewalling
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Silent treatment
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Guilt tripping
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Moving goalposts
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Word salad
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Devaluation
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Negging
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Isolation
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Financial control
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Weaponized incompetence
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JADE baiting
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Flying monkeys
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Smear campaign
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Projection
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Deflection
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Contempt
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Selective memory
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Punishment silence
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Reactive abuse framing
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Trauma dumping as control
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